Girls Need Love?! Self-Love!

Self-Love!!

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One thing that we don't do enough of is giving ourselves the love we need. How can we love others without first loving ourselves. Women carry the weight of everything from everyone on our backs like pack animals. We are hunched over instead of standing tall loving the skin we are in. It is our nurturing behavior that makes us feel like we have to take on so much and just keep going and being strong. Then one day our strength becomes our weakness because we aren't taking care of ourselves FIRST. We are hard on ourselves for our appearance and the idealistic thought of what we should look like, what we should have, etc. I know this sounds familiar because I am a woman who has and still sometimes goes through these feelings.

At one time I was in a place where I was trying to figure out what was going on with my health. My anxiety was through the roof constantly. My weight was fluctuating and I was even having asthma issues again, which was strange, because I haven't felt that way in years. Well I went to my doctor and if you know my doctor then you know she is real. She does not sugar coat anything. During the assessment, she realized I was suffering because I was not taking the time I needed for myself. She said something that has resonated with me since, "How can you take care of anyone, if you haven't taken care of yourself first. How can you feed the kids if you are starving? If you die from not taking care of yourself, then who will take care of them? Girl you better eat, your kids will be fine, they wont die. Take care of you first!" Since then I have tried to make more attempts to take care of myself because I will not be any good to anyone else without me being well. I have learned to not say yes to everything. I have learned to leave work AT WORK; whatever isn't done will get done the next day. I have learned to treat myself sometimes. I have learned to meditate and give my brain a rest, get in tune with my body, my mind, and my spirit: even if its just 5 minutes. I have learned to be in the PRESENT!!!

So to you I say the same, GIRL BE IN THE PRESENT!! Be ok with not being ok sometimes. If you feel emotional and need to cry, cry it out! Be ok with being selfish!! Be Selfish, Be Selfish, Be Selfish!!! And don't you dare feel bad about it! Those kids, your significant other, your family will be fine if you take a minute to yourself. And guess what? They don't have to take that minute with you! Take a ride, enjoy girl talk. Pull that dress out the closet, put some makeup on, get sexy, feel sexy, smell good and go out! Put those kids to bed early, get cozy with your favorite movie, have a glass of whatever, eat whatever makes you feel warm and happy and enjoy the night! Hit the gym and take a dance class. Go pole dancing. Get a massage. Go shopping! Do whatever makes you feel good! You deserve it. You are deserving of self-love. We are roots to the tree, we have to be healthy for those trees to grow.

Signed with Love: Your Kindred Spirit